Mulligan

Apologies to anyone who might actually read this blog about the crazy postings from Monday. Not sure what was going on between my phone and blogger. Anyway, here is the original post regarding Friday - Monday.

So where were we? Oh right, date night was this past Friday night. It should be noted that this past Friday was the 12th not the 13th. We dropped ShortStuff off at our friends house and headed to this newish restaurant in town. LONG wait. Like an hour and a half. Next time we will definitely have to make reservations early in the week.

We had a very enjoyable dinner. Edamame appetizers, a yummy salad (and I am NOT a salad fan), amazing scallops for me and salmon for Hyde. Then a scrumptious creme brûlée dessert. Great conversation. No dull dead time. No snippiness. Then a quick stop at bookstore and off to pick up ShortStuff. On way to get him Hyde asked how I was liking the book I was reading, "Sacred Marriage". I said it was great and explained how it really put things in perspective about how mankind will never be able to give us the love we crave. Only God can fill that need. But if we recognize that every human sins and will let us down at times because that is just our nature, it really helps move past those hurts. (Please no that I do not believe in inherited sin but do believe Romans 3:23.)

I also mentioned how the book stressed that if you want a holier marriage you cannot sit around thinking "oh I should have married so and so or just not married at all". That this line of thinking does nothing to draw you closer to God because if you are committed to God then divorce is not going to be an option.

We pick up ShortStuff, head home and get him in bed. I should point out that about six months ago or so, ShortStuff started sleeping with us. I have mentioned several times that this is not good; tried several times to do the bed routine in his big boy bed; but when the tears start Hyde says we all need our sleep just let him sleep with us. So Friday night was no different. We put him to bed in our bed. Then Hyde starts getting ready for bed as well. I think well ok then and do the same. I probably should have thrown myself at him at this point.

Next thing I know Hyde starts in on how he is sick of the preacher saying he just has to accept things the way they are and now I am saying same thing. That neither of us care what the Bible teaches. I said that it seemed like he only wanted to apply verses on wives submitting in all things but did not want the rest of the Bible. He basically responded with Nuh uh.

By the way, no clue where the remark regarding preacher came from. Anyway he says he can not accept things the way they are when they are sinful and immoral. I ask what things. He says if I have to ask it is not worth his time to tell me. I think I fell asleep about then. He did his usual toss and turn, huff and puff, trying to get me to check on him. I stayed, ahem, asleep.

Saturday - I was supposed to go to a wedding shower and Hyde was supposed to watch ShortStuff. However he had forgotten about a huge zoo event. I had told him the day before to go ahead and volunteer and I would just take ShortStuff and drop the gift off. Saturday morning I wake up feeling like I had been kicked by a mule, no voice, eyes swollen shut, earache, headache, etc. Apparently it was obvious I felt bad and he felt guilty leaving, so naturally, he threw a fit about how he never got to do anything and guess he had to give up the zoo as well. I told him I did not want him to stay because that would just make me feel worse with him grousing around. So he stormed out around 8 am and did not come home until around 3. Did not even check in to make sure ShortStuff was ok.

I stayed home all Saturday and Sunday. Absolutely miserable. I already had today (15th) off thankfully. Pleasant day. Chiropractic visit, pedicure and lunch with a dear friend and her baby girl.

Things I will never understand - how one can be happy spending less than 30 minutes of awake time with your child. Hyde picked ShortStuff up from his school and drove home. He then said he had to lie down. After about an hour he got up and started packing for gym. While he was packing I asked him if he was going to respond to his sister in law regarding going to see his grandparents.

This is something else I will never understand. I grew up very, VERY close to my four grandparents. We have not seen his grandparents in three years. There is always an excuse. Jobs, money, ShortStuff, something. After he hemmed and hawed I finally said look if you do not want to go just say so. He got all bent out of shape and stomped out without so much of a bye to me. At least he did say bye to ShortStuff this time.

A few hours later as I almost have ShortStuff to sleep he comes home and wants to know what I ate for dinner. I tell him I had a lovely gluten free burrito. He says well I am going to cook and you can eat a bit more. Roller coaster. Roller coaster of love.