Spring Break

Hyde has been on Spring Break all week. ShortStuff's Spring Break started today. Yesterday, I had to be in town to give a presentation at 6:45 a.m. I am not a morning person. At all. Anyway, I make it to the presentation, give it and afterward, I'm discussing how poorly it went with one of my colleagues. My phone rings. It is Hyde holding the phone up so I could hear ShortStuff screaming. Hyde informs me that ShortStuff woke up scared because I wasn't there, that he cannot do anything with ShortStuff and that ShortStuff only wanted me. (He says this in front of ShortStuff all the time. Gee, self-fulfilling prophecy much?) I asked him what he wanted me to do. He said "nothing" and hung up. Ten minutes later my phone rings again and I answer it to hear "Come home. Now." Click.

So I drive home. Mind you, we live at least 20 minutes from town and I'm going to have to turn around and head right back to work. I walk in to find ShortStuff in his high chair with his arms crossed. He wasn't making a sound, just staring at Hyde who is sitting, cross armed, in a chair across from ShortStuff. I get ShortStuff fed and clothed and take him to school. Rest of the day goes okay, other than the fact that I'm at work until after 6:30. Rarely happens especially in the role that I've been in for the past 4 years.

And here we are at Wednesday. I leave the house and Hyde and ShortStuff are still asleep. I get a call mid-morning. Hyde is at the library with ShortStuff where there is supposed to be a story-time hour but there isn't. He asks if I'd like for them to pick me up for lunch later. I say sure. They pick me up and we have a nice lunch. However, when it is time for them to drop me back off, ShortStuff starts crying because he wants to come back to my office. I walk back to my office feeling awful as Hyde drives off with a screaming ShortStuff. And just in case I wasn't feeling horrible enough, an hour later I answer my phone to hear ShortStuff still crying.

Ten minutes later and another phone call. This time it is Hyde telling me that my son only wants me and how he (Hyde, not ShortStuff) begged me for years to allow him to have a career and I said I didn't need him to support me. Yes, we've been down this road repeatedly. I am not sure how any Christian husband can say their wife did not allow them to have a career. Regardless, I have asked for forgiveness for not supporting him 100% in some of his career choices. Read earlier posts. Pretty sure I laid that all out earlier on here and I am positive I've gone over it repeatedly with Hyde. His view - I always do whatever it is I want and then years later say "ooops, sorry" and expect all to be forgotten. How do I handle this? Any of this?

But wait....there's more.

He then starts in on me about how I'll be a real good example at the teen workshop weekend our home congregation is hosting next weekend. He asked if I was going to teach them how to ruin their marriages to and then hung up.

I'm really trying to look at this as a way to build my strength spiritually but it is getting harder every day. Especially after the last time when ShortStuff started trying to bite Hyde to protect me. Help. What do I do? Do I go to the elders? An elder's wife? Do I say go to this link, read everything there, it outlines our past 11 years and then come talk to me?

Please pray that I'll be given wisdom.